Good Things Come to Those Who Ask

Good Things Come to Those Who Ask Jack Canfield is one of my favorite success coaches and a pioneer in the change your thoughts, change your life mindset. He speaks from experience, going from making $8000 a year as a teacher, to making multi-millions as an international speaker and coach. His techniques are simple and very effective. Ive seen my own business triple in the last year and I owe a lot of my thanks to him.   Enjoy!   Erin Good Things Come to Those Who Ask! by Jack Canfield Asking for what you need is probably the most underutilized tool for people. And yet, amazing requests have been granted to people simply because theyve asked for it! Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or time, most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their dreams come true. They might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even greedy. More than likely though, it is the fear of rejection that is holding them back. Even though they are afraid to hear the word no, theyre already saying it to themselves by not asking! Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection? Consider this: Rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as rejection! Youre not any worse off by hearing no than you were before you asked. You didnt have what you asked for before you asked and you still dont, so what did you lose? Being rejected doesnt hold you back from anything. Only YOU hold yourself back. When you realize that theres no merit to rejection, youll feel more comfortable asking for things. You may just need a bit of help learning how to ask for what you want. How to Ask for What You Want Theres a specific science to asking for and getting what you want or need in life. And while I recommend you learn more by studying The Aladdin Factor, here are some quick tips to get you started: 1. Ask as if you expect to get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask from the place that you have already been given it. It is a done deal. Ask as if you expect to get a yes. 2. Assume you can. Dont start with the assumption that you cant get it. If you are going to assume, assume you can get an upgrade. Assume you can get a table by the window. Assume that you can return it without a sales slip. Assume that you can get a scholarship, that you can get a raise, that you can get tickets at this late date. Dont ever assume against yourself. 3. Ask someone who can give it to you. Qualify the person. Who would I have to speak to to getWho is authorized to make a decision aboutWhat would have to happen for me to get 4. Be clear and specific. In my seminars, I often ask, Who wants more money in their life? Ill pick someone who raised their hand and give them a quarter, asking, Is that enough for you? No? Well, how would I know how much you want. How would anybody know? You need to ask for a specific number. Too many people are walking around wanting more of something, but not being specific enough to obtain it. 5. Ask repeatedly. One of the most important Success Principles is the commitment to not give up. Whenever were asking others to participate in the fulfillment of our goals, some people are going to say no. They may have other priorities, commitments and reasons not to participate. Its no reflection on you. Just get used to the idea that theres going to be a lot of rejection along the way to the brass ring. The key is to not give up. When someone says No you say NEXT! Why? Because when you keep on asking, even the same person again and againthey might say yes on a different day when they are in a better mood when you have new data to present after youve proven your commitment to them when circumstances have changed when youve learned how to close better when youve established better rapport when they trust you more when you have paid your dues when the economy is better and so on. Kids know this Success Principle better than anyone. They will ask the same person over and over again without any hesitation (can you relate!). Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will make a world of difference for you as you work toward your goals. Practice asking and youll get very good at it! Youll even speed your progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get it later. Make a list of what you need to ask for in all areas of your life, and start asking. Remember, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE if you dare to ask! © 2009 Jack Canfield * * *